Comments on: Ears and Fears

By: Beth Partin

Beth Partin — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 01:57:10 +0000

Writer Dad,

there is something cool about a whisper room, but something sinister also. It always gives me the creeps to walk in the studio at night.

By: Writer Dad

Writer Dad — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 20:31:12 +0000

I would trade most things I own for a whisper room (nice shout out to Rita, by the way).

By: Beth

Beth — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 15:07:08 +0000

Amber, it’s probably because I didn’t start it until a month ago. I’ve been enjoying yours, so thanks for stopping by!

By: Amber's Crazy Bloggin' Canuck

Amber's Crazy Bloggin' Canuck — Mon, 29 Sep 2008 03:47:10 +0000

How is it I have never stumbled upon your fun site before???!!! Thank you for dropping by mine!

By: Beth

Beth — Sat, 27 Sep 2008 17:56:21 +0000

Simon,

thanks for visiting! Yes, being easy with oneself–that’s the goal. But I’m a worrier, so I have to work at it.

By: Simon

Simon — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 21:07:28 +0000

Hi Beth – Thanks for commenting on my blog the other day – I followed you home!

My wife Chris and I both have the same chronic condition (which was how we got together!) so I guess that makes us more accepting of each other’s limitations. Even so, we sometimes say ‘the wrong thing’. I guess that’s just part of life. Rita is right – don’t beat yourself up! If we didn’t make the odd ‘mistake’ we wouldn’t be alive. We need to be easy with ourselves…

By: Beth Partin

Beth Partin — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 16:51:24 +0000

Thanks for commenting, Rita. And welcome.

Yeah, that is a great lesson to learn–to prompt the responses that you want, or at least avoid prompting the ones you don’t want. I know I’ve spent plenty of time beating my head against that wall.

By: Rita

Rita — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 16:38:27 +0000

Beth,
Thank you for the amazing – and unexpected – link. As you know, I addressed in my blog, my gratitude to the “loved ones” who end up becoming “caretakers” to those of us who find oursleves “not ourselves” one day. My husband – and children – have been unfailingly supportive; but if you think they haven’t occasionally said “the wrong thing,” then YOU are wrong. Don’t beat yourself up for one comment made in the heat of the moment. Or 10 comments. It can’t be easy. I finally stopped saying things like “I wish we could…” because what was my husband supposed to say? “Me too?” “We can’t because of you?” “Stop wishing?” Anybody with a chronic illness must incorporate into their thinking that prompting responses should be carefully done. Otherwise, we will end up not only ill – but alone.

Best to you, Todd. And don’t be embarassed by WHO you are, and how you react. False bravado goes only so far!

Thank you and regards,

Rita

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 14:42:22 +0000

Probably I should be more embarrassed. Thanks for the link.

By: Todd Bradley

Todd Bradley — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 14:39:14 +0000

That was a nice post, though it’s a little embarrassing for you to tell the whole world about my crying because of my ears.

I found an ABC News article about this particular problem I have, and it probably explains the whole thing better than my song and numerous blog articles could:

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=4436348&page=1